A lot has taken place since Step One was shared with you all.
We finished our first round of our adoption application and sent it out in the mail!
So if you’re keeping track. We have finished steps 1 through 3 so far.
Attend Information Meeting Discern about children with special needs and your skills/abilities to meet their needs. Mail Permanency Resource Family Survey to State Program Office
- State Staff – Initially screens for compatibility with Program.
- Initial Screen In – Noticed by letter and assigned for In-Person Screening Visit
- In-Person Screening Visit with Public Adoptions Staff
- Public Adoptions Staff consults with supervisor about visit.
- Adoption packet is mailed out. We complete and return materials. Can enroll in Public Adoptions education classes with returned application.
- Application is assigned to an adoption home study worker.
- Adoption worker schedules visit to begin home study.
- Licensing Timeline – Varies depending on schedules, visits completed, meeting education requirements, all materials completed and returned to home study worker.
Filling out the first round application was a bit depressing. If you ever want to feel like a judgmental person, then fill out this form. We had to go through pages upon pages of checking off behavioral, physical, etc conditions that we have experience with and what we’re willing to “accept” out of our future children. After my going through infertility for so many years, shingles, vestibular disorder, and Jason’s cancer diagnosis, we would really prefer not to have a child with a bunch of physical disabilities or serious health issues (i.e. feeding tubes and such). Jason and I had a hard time answering these questions. We talked about that if we conceived on our own and gave birth to a child or children with these conditions we would still love and take care of our kids. We would do whatever needed to be done to make sure our kids were taken care of and provided for no matter what. We also talked about how we could easily adopt a “healthy” child that could later on in life get seriously ill or injured. Again, we would still love them and do our best to take care of them. We would never turn our backs on someone in need, especially our own child. Again, it was not fun having to answer these questions, but we did have to be honest with our answers. We did find that we are more open to behavioral issues, though. We were given different situations and had to respond with how we would react or handle those situations. It was a bit challenging. They were situations you usually wouldn’t have to consider or think about unless you were going through adoption. I will say, filling out this application helped Jason and I connect more and communicate about our desires and future plans. We had to get past the part of where Jason would just agree with whatever I would say. I kept having to tell him that it’s not about what I want, it’s about what WE want and what WE can handle as a team. In the end, we both felt pretty low of ourselves and how we had to truthfully answer these questions.
As for what’s next, we get to patiently wait and see how our first application goes and hopefully receive a letter that we have been approved for the next step.