Steps Six and Seven – Officially in Adoption Program

If you aren’t caught up, here is where we are at on our adoption process:

We have finished steps 1 through 7 so far.

  1. Attend Information Meeting
  2. Discern about children with special needs and your skills/abilities to meet their needs.
  3. Mail Permanency Resource Family Survey to State Program Office
  4. State Staff – Initially screens for compatibility with Program.
  5. Initial Screen In – Noticed by letter and assigned for In-Person Screening Visit
  6. In-Person Screening Visit with Public Adoptions Staff
  7. Public Adoptions Staff consults with supervisor about visit.
  8. Adoption packet is mailed out.  We complete and return materials.  Can enroll in Public Adoptions education classes with returned application.
  9. Application is assigned to an adoption home study worker.
  10. Adoption worker schedules visit to begin home study.
  11. Licensing Timeline – Varies depending on schedules, visits completed, meeting education requirements, all materials completed and returned to home study worker

Step One – Adoption Information Meeting

Steps Two and Three – Adoption Survey Application

Steps Four and Five – Can’t Believe This is Finally Happening

Right now we are on Step 8.  Last week Tuesday, November 26th, we received a phone call from the lady that did our In-Person Screening Visit, and she told us that her supervisor approved us!  We are officially in the Adoption Program and have been assigned a caseworker (same lady that did our In-Person Screening)!  We just received our Adoption packet and will begin to fill this out and will also receive another visit from our Caseworker to explain how to fill out the second half of the paperwork.  She mentioned that classes will begin in January.  We will have to attend two Public Adoptions education classes (8hrs each).

What have we been doing these days?  Well, I’ve been sick with bronchitis and an ear infection.  The bronchitis has been almost never-ending.  I had it bad for just over 2 weeks and received some meds from the doctor, which definitely helped.  But now I have this lingering cough/phlegm/nasal drainage.  Besides being sick, we’ve been working on decluttering the house still.  Going through and organizing has been a never-ending task.  We are hoping to sell our home and purchase a new (bigger) home within the year, so having everything decluttered and organized will definitely help.

Jason had a dartball tournament this past weekend and his team did very well.  While he was playing darts, I was at home catching up on housework and laundry.  Not a fair, right?! haha

That’s about it, for now.  Until next time!

 

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And It All Piles Up…

Ever have one of those days or even weeks where you have dishes piling up, a bathroom to be cleaned, floors to be swept and washed, dusting to be done, laundry to wash and put away, etc. but have no motivation to do anything about it all?  Life just kind of takes over and by the time you get home from work or running your errands, you just want to relax.  Ugh, that’s what we’ve been going through.  Jason’s been working overtime most weekends and he plays dartball 2 times, sometimes 3 times, a week.  I guess that means he has a bit of an excuse for not getting house work done. haha  As for me, I have been under the weather for the past couple weeks and now that I’m feeling better, I simply have no motivation.

In general, I’ve always been an early to bed and early to rise type of person. I usually like to catch up with my housework and prep meals in the early hours so that after work dinner is ready and the house is presentable.  Lately, I just don’t have the energy or motivation.  I see all of what needs to get done, and try to do something about it but then lose interest.  This is pretty unusual for me since I’m usually a “Type A” person and like things perfectly perfect.  Then the nights that Jason is actually home, I like to spend time with him.  Can’t blame me for that, right? haha

Well, guess what is planned for this weekend?!  Jason is working overtime both Saturday and Sunday, and I get to catch up with housework.  After the house is presentable, I get to start going through stuff in our basement and downsizing some more.  Now that we have a closer deadline to work towards, with our meeting with the adoption rep and all, it gives me a bit of motivation to get house projects done and clear out the house more.  Maybe if I am really ambitious I can FINALLY finish texturing and painting our kitchen and stairwell area walls.

A few years ago we started big house projects.  I’m talking about a new roof, new driveway, tore out our finished basement due to water damage from the old driveway, new glass block windows in the basement, removed all the carpeting from the main floor to expose the wood floors, completely gut and remodeled our bathroom, new kitchen sink, repainted all the walls on the main floor (besides the kitchen), painted about half of our basement walls (still have to finish the rest), chimney completely torn down and rebuilt, etc.  I can’t remember everything right now, but we’ve been doing a lot of stuff.  We still have a decent size list of things that still need to be done.  Let’s not forget the items that need to be complete before our homestudy process begins so we get to be approved faster (i.e. install a bunch more smoke detectors, carbon monoxide detector, fire extinguisher, etc.).  We’re hoping to check a few more things off our list before some kiddos come into our home.  I feel like there is always something to be done when you own a home.  Now I just have to get myself moving! And yes, Jason does help out, too.  Who said being an adult would be fun? haha

Can you relate with the never-ending list of things to be done?  Are your homes always perfectly clean and ready for company?

 

Getting to Know Christi

Christi is a very dominant, strong-willed person.  She likes things to be in perfect condition and likes structure.  She shows a strong front, but behind this front she is a soft, caring person who is very sensitive.  She doesn’t like to fail, and works hard to accomplish any challenge thrown at her.  Her soft spot has to do with children and animals; she will fight tooth and nail to protect them.  Often times you will find Christi being serious, but she can be very goofy, too.  There is usually not a dull moment when Christi is around.  She can be very creative and adventurous, too.

Some of her many interest include the following:

  • Trains
  • Old Cars
  • Elephants
  • Favorite Colors are Yellow and Purple
  • Favorite Flowers are Sunflowers and Daisies
  • Music (Mainly Christian, Country, Classical and Instrumental)
  • Movies (Christian, Romance, Suspense and Comedy)
  • Reading (Suspense/Mystery, Romance and Christian Romance)
  • Road Trips/Scenic Drives
  • Board Games/Card Games/ Puzzles
  • Sports (Tennis, Volleyball, Basketball, Baseball)
  • Cleaning/Organizing/Decorating
  • Cooking/Baking
  • Coloring in her Adult Coloring Book
  • Arts/Crafts
  • Animals (Especially Cats, Elephants, Rodents/Small Animals)
  • Watching TV Shows (Heartland, Law & Order SVU, Chicago PD, Chicago Med, Chicago Justice, Everybody Loves Raymond, King of Queens, Friends, Gilmore Girls, One Tree Hill, Dawson’s Creek, Reba, Last Man Standing, Pretty Little Liars, etc.)
  • Looking to get back into Playing the Cello and the Flute
  • Favorite Seasons are Fall and Spring
  • Favorite Holidays are Christmas and Easter

So Many Children in the World

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Not sure if you know, but there is a website online where you can view the profile of children that are available for adoption called http://www.adoptuskids.org.  There are pages upon pages of children that are looking for a loving and forever home; it’s a bit heartbreaking.  All these children want is to have parents who will care for them and keep them safe. I check this website randomly to see who is added or who has been removed (I’m assuming they have been adopted, so hooray for them!).  I seriously cannot help but to fall in love with all these children! I wish I had unlimited funds and a home large enough to adopt every single one of them. I know that sounds a tad bit crazy, but my heart turns to mush and full of so much compassion seeing all these children.  Reading each child’s profile and questioning if they could “fit in” with us and our lifestyle.  While reading every single profile, I smile when I find a child that would be perfect for us.  The simple mention of LEGOs, and I imagine Jason building LEGO sets with the children.  Or when the profile mentions the children want a home with cats; I smile because we have four kitties that these children can love on.  I am reminded by a Bible verse, Matthew 19:14, “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Even though I know we cannot give all these children a home, I know that they are in God’s hands.  Jesus has his arms around these children. I truly believe that there are children out there that would absolutely perfect for us.  I cannot wait for the chaotic household, where we are chasing after our children, telling them to get their homework done, to clean up their rooms, to stop picking on each other, to eat their food, to do their chores, etc.  I’m sure I will complain and change my tone once we are in those situations, but for now, I look forward to those days.  I also look forward to the cuddles, the sweet hugs, and comforting them if they get an owwie or are simply having a bad day.

On Saturday, we spent a couple of hours with our friends and their four children enjoying lunch and walking around the mall.  Children are children and of course will act out, but I loved how great our friends are with parenting.  They know how to handle their children in a calm matter and tend to know exactly what their children need (at least that’s how it looks to me).  I couldn’t help but smile while watching different situations that would arise; imagining how Jason and I would handle those situations.  I’m very grateful that we have plenty of friends and relatives with children around us, and that we will have plenty of opportunities to ask for advice from them.

As for the rest of our weekend…not much fun took place. We took care of things around the house such as mowing the lawn, laundry, tidying up, and then we did our weekly grocery shopping trip. We live such exciting lives! Haha It was nice to take a break from planning for our fundraising event, and just have some quiet down time before our lives get insanely busy the next couple months.  It was getting to the point where I would wake up from my sleep with anxiety about everything that needs to get done.  Whew! Just need to take a deep breath and breathe.

Until next time. xoxo

We Finally Have Our Kitchen Back

From:  Monday, March 27, 2017

What a busy weekend!  As you may remember from a previous post, our kitchen became a huge mess and basically not usable due to all the donations we have been receiving.  We finally finished taking everything into the basement, just in time to receive even more donations. We decided to do a deep clean of the main floor of our home and it looks awesome. I sat up a play room for our cats (more so for our kitten), and had Jason spend time in there entertaining the cats so they wouldn’t be in the way while I was cleaning.  Cleaning with cats (especially the kitten) can get frustrating.  I’m sure it can be compared to trying to clean with children around.  I clean up all the cat toys/items, the kitten comes and spreads everything out again.  I try to sweep the floors, the kitten decides to lay in my dirt pile. I try to clean the bathroom, the kitten walks around on my freshly cleaned surfaces. There’s a lot of, “no don’t touch that, no don’t eat that, go play with your toys, you’re driving me crazy, etc.” In the end the house did get clean, so that’s a plus.  Maybe it’s just me, but having a clean and organized home is very refreshing.  I like knowing where everything is and having empty surfaces throughout our home.  I absolutely hate clutter, and yes, I know I have to get over this especially when we have children in our home.  Something for me to work on, I guess.  As it turns out, we did not get to finish going through our items to sell and we did not begin pricing any of the donated items yet.

Besides cleaning most of the weekend, we had our friends and their two children come over for dinner and hangout for a little while.  It was entertaining to see how much energy the children have and watching how our friends parent their children.   We have a challenging road ahead of us as far as parenting goes, but I’m honestly very excited for this challenge.

Sunday morning we had a great church service.  We enjoy listening to our pastor preach.  He’s really good at using the Bible and showing how the Bible relates to us in today’s world.  Yesterdays sermon was about “Doubting Thomas”, and about learning to trust in God and stop doubting and fearing things.  We could definitely relate to the fearing things.  Adopting is a huge step for us and we are scared of what lies ahead for us on this journey.  Will we be able to raise enough funds to adopt? Will we be good parents? Is this truly God’s plan for us? Will having children ruin our relationship/friendship with each other? Will we be able to give our children a good life? The list goes on and on.  After church we met with our pastor to kind of talk things over about the rummage/fundraiser and about our fears.  Talking and praying helped ease our minds a little bit and we know we need to focus on praying more about this new adventure.

This week we will continue with sorting/gathering items for the rummage.  This coming weekend we get to have a little get away for Jason’s last dartball tournament for the season.  It should be a fun time hanging out with the rest of the team and also just having some fun time away from home for a couple days.

God’s blessings to you all. Have a great week!