Home Study

Many people have asked us, “What is a home study?”  I joke and say, “It’s where you get every aspect of your life investigated and you are left feeling a little violated.”  All jokes aside, I completely understand why agencies conduct home studies.  The children that are being adopted have more than likely been removed from a bad situation, and the agency wants to make sure they are placing the children in a safe environment.

Everything I have read says to “prepare for your interviews with the social worker”.  What are some of the questions they may ask us?  It could range from the following:

  • Why we want to adopt
  • Asking about our marriage/relationship
  • About our finances
  • Our health history
  • Our education
  • Our occupations
  • Our childhood and the environment we grew up in
  • How we handle stressful situations
  • Our parenting style and how we plan on disciplining our children

We’ll more than likely have to fill out paperwork that asks about our employers, financial statements, criminal background checks, etc.  We’ll need to offer personal references of people in our lives that know us best and would recommend us to adopt and become parents.  We’ll have to provide copies of a marriage license, birth certificates, social security numbers, house insurance, car insurance, etc.

Everything varies state-by-state and depends on your agency.  This is a sample break-down of what could be included in a home study, which I found through 1800 Homestudy.

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National Foster Care Month

In case you didn’t already know, May is National Foster Care Month.  Have you ever looked at the statistics of foster children?  It’s very heartbreaking. This is an image from 2012 that I got from https://www.fosterclub.com/article/statistics-foster-care.

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Here is another image from 2014 that I found at http://trinitykids.org/TheirStory/FosterCare/tabid/101/Default.aspx.

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These statistics are eye-opening and very sad.  Our hope is to adopt older children and quite possibly a sibling group.  We are not adopting in order for us to be “praised” about how selfless we are or giving or whatever.  We are not doing this to look good.  We are passionate about helping children in need.  And of course we want a family.  We do believe we have a lot of love to give to these children and we hope that us showing these children that they are loved and wanted will help change their future.  We can only imagine what they have gone through and what they continue to go through.  We want to help in every way we can.

I currently have my eye on a specific sibling group, but all will depend on our how fast we can fill out a ton of paper work and how our home study goes.  We’ve been reaching out to a couple of agencies gathering information.  I have a list of things that need to be done for the home study and to help speed up the paperwork process.  I have sent the bio of the sibling group I have my eye on to a couple of people, and they have all said how these children would fit in perfectly with us. It seriously couldn’t be a better match for us.  Now, it’s in God’s hands.  He knows our what hearts desire.

If you’re the praying type, please pray for us and our journey that we’re on. It’s honestly a bit scary not knowing what will come of all of this.  We have a couple concerns, which we will share a little later on, but for now we are just holding onto faith that everything will work itself out.

Quick Update of Our Progress

From:  Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Hi everyone!

The past week has been crazy busy. We spent this past weekend going through donated items and sorting them into categorized boxes.  It felt like we did a lot of work, but looking at what we still have left, reminds us otherwise. haha Donations have been rolling in and we’ve been receiving texts, calls, emails, etc. from friends, friends of friends, our old church, other churches, etc. of items that will be donated. We are beyond thankful for all the feedback we have been receiving.  Our little home is filling up fast, but we are so excited and appreciative of everyone’s generosity.

Besides going through donated items, we (along with a couple friends that are helping us out) have been reaching out to vendors for the vendor sale and silent auction.  This has been a fun opportunity to meet new people in the area.  So many of them have been supportive of our plans and excited for us to adopt even though they are perfect strangers.  I’ve created a long list of items that need to be done and have so many ideas running through my head.  Jason keeps wondering how everything is going to work out and I respond with, “You just gotta have faith” or the phrase which I am sure he is sick of hearing, “Just trust me”.  Am I way over my head?  Yeah, probably… but I like challenges. I like to work hard and fight through challenges and win in the end.  With God, all things are possible.  Right?

I’ve been reading about home studies and what needs to be done to pass them.  Friends and family that have seen our home, tell us we should pass easily.  Our home is safe.  Yes we may be in the middle of random house projects, but nothing is unsafe.  We need to make vet appointments for our cats to get them up-to-date on their vaccinations (yay, more money to spend 😊), install smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors, get a lock box for our medicines and over the counter medicines, finish up with other projects, and much more.  This has been part of the hold up of why we haven’t moved much further with an agency. I’m a planner.  I’m the type of person that likes to have my ducks in a row before I move on to the next step.

As many of our friends and family know, I love pictures.  On my to-do list, is to have adoption pictures taken of Jason and me.  You know, the pictures that announce that we’re adopting.  My now basically everyone knows we are adopting, but I want it more for a keepsake.  I’m sentimental and like to track moments in our lives through pictures.  But to be honest, we’re both working on losing weight and trying to get healthier.  So for now, pictures are on hold for a little while.

What’s ahead for us? Too many things to list! haha For starters, we will continue to move forward with sorting through donated items to make room for more items that will be donated.  Next, would be to continue with planning the silent auction and vendor sale.  After these tasks, we will just continue with checking things off our list.

That’s about it for now.  We’ll be back soon with more updates.  Have a great rest of the week!

Feeling Overwhelmed

From:  Wednesday, April 5, 2017

We’ve been doing a lot of research about adoption, ways to raise money, what’s needed to apply for grants or loans, etc. There are so many things going through our minds. It’s hard to take a step back and just breathe and move forward slowly, one step at a time. We fully understand that adoption is a long process, but it’s so hard to move slowly when you have been wanting a family for so many years.  Our biggest worry is money.  Obviously the majority of new parents fear about finances; how will you provide for your child?  For us, it’s more about, how will we be able to afford the costs of adopting?  Seeing the numbers for adopting is eye opening and very overwhelming.  Trying to hold on to faith and trust that God will provide.

Many may be wondering why we are waiting before contacting an adoption agency.  We’ve been in the middle of house projects and we would prefer to have most of the inside stuff done before we go through a home study. We want things to be ready and safe for a child to come into our home.  We have a checklist of items that need to be done before we can successfully pass a home study. So that’s what we’re working on for now.  We will hopefully meet with an agency soon (we are fairly sure which agency we will be going with).  From what we have read, once we meet with the agency, we have to go through an orientation class, fill out a ton of paperwork and get ready for the home study.

So besides our house projects, we continue with getting things ready for our adoption fundraiser/rummage event.  I contacted our church secretary, so now we wait for available dates for the event.

We have many busy days ahead of us, so keep checking in for updates.