Steps Six and Seven – Officially in Adoption Program

If you aren’t caught up, here is where we are at on our adoption process:

We have finished steps 1 through 7 so far.

  1. Attend Information Meeting
  2. Discern about children with special needs and your skills/abilities to meet their needs.
  3. Mail Permanency Resource Family Survey to State Program Office
  4. State Staff – Initially screens for compatibility with Program.
  5. Initial Screen In – Noticed by letter and assigned for In-Person Screening Visit
  6. In-Person Screening Visit with Public Adoptions Staff
  7. Public Adoptions Staff consults with supervisor about visit.
  8. Adoption packet is mailed out.  We complete and return materials.  Can enroll in Public Adoptions education classes with returned application.
  9. Application is assigned to an adoption home study worker.
  10. Adoption worker schedules visit to begin home study.
  11. Licensing Timeline – Varies depending on schedules, visits completed, meeting education requirements, all materials completed and returned to home study worker

Step One – Adoption Information Meeting

Steps Two and Three – Adoption Survey Application

Steps Four and Five – Can’t Believe This is Finally Happening

Right now we are on Step 8.  Last week Tuesday, November 26th, we received a phone call from the lady that did our In-Person Screening Visit, and she told us that her supervisor approved us!  We are officially in the Adoption Program and have been assigned a caseworker (same lady that did our In-Person Screening)!  We just received our Adoption packet and will begin to fill this out and will also receive another visit from our Caseworker to explain how to fill out the second half of the paperwork.  She mentioned that classes will begin in January.  We will have to attend two Public Adoptions education classes (8hrs each).

What have we been doing these days?  Well, I’ve been sick with bronchitis and an ear infection.  The bronchitis has been almost never-ending.  I had it bad for just over 2 weeks and received some meds from the doctor, which definitely helped.  But now I have this lingering cough/phlegm/nasal drainage.  Besides being sick, we’ve been working on decluttering the house still.  Going through and organizing has been a never-ending task.  We are hoping to sell our home and purchase a new (bigger) home within the year, so having everything decluttered and organized will definitely help.

Jason had a dartball tournament this past weekend and his team did very well.  While he was playing darts, I was at home catching up on housework and laundry.  Not a fair, right?! haha

That’s about it, for now.  Until next time!

 

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Getting to Know Christi

Christi is a very dominant, strong-willed person.  She likes things to be in perfect condition and likes structure.  She shows a strong front, but behind this front she is a soft, caring person who is very sensitive.  She doesn’t like to fail, and works hard to accomplish any challenge thrown at her.  Her soft spot has to do with children and animals; she will fight tooth and nail to protect them.  Often times you will find Christi being serious, but she can be very goofy, too.  There is usually not a dull moment when Christi is around.  She can be very creative and adventurous, too.

Some of her many interest include the following:

  • Trains
  • Old Cars
  • Elephants
  • Favorite Colors are Yellow and Purple
  • Favorite Flowers are Sunflowers and Daisies
  • Music (Mainly Christian, Country, Classical and Instrumental)
  • Movies (Christian, Romance, Suspense and Comedy)
  • Reading (Suspense/Mystery, Romance and Christian Romance)
  • Road Trips/Scenic Drives
  • Board Games/Card Games/ Puzzles
  • Sports (Tennis, Volleyball, Basketball, Baseball)
  • Cleaning/Organizing/Decorating
  • Cooking/Baking
  • Coloring in her Adult Coloring Book
  • Arts/Crafts
  • Animals (Especially Cats, Elephants, Rodents/Small Animals)
  • Watching TV Shows (Heartland, Law & Order SVU, Chicago PD, Chicago Med, Chicago Justice, Everybody Loves Raymond, King of Queens, Friends, Gilmore Girls, One Tree Hill, Dawson’s Creek, Reba, Last Man Standing, Pretty Little Liars, etc.)
  • Looking to get back into Playing the Cello and the Flute
  • Favorite Seasons are Fall and Spring
  • Favorite Holidays are Christmas and Easter

Lists and More Lists

I am the type of person who enjoys making lists.  I have always been an organized person.  I always had my movies in alphabetical order, books in alphabetical order, etc.  Everything had its place and purpose.  I create lists about basically everything.  I have a sense of satisfaction when I can cross things off my lists.  I feel accomplished.  Jason, on the other hand, is not an organized person, which is completely okay.  He can handle things being out-of-order and not perfect.  I guess, in a way, we kind of balance each other out.

One of my sisters loves to tease me because of all my lists.  She says I need to loosen up and just enjoy life.  She is similar to Jason in the manner of they are both more laid back individuals.  They kind of go with the flow and let life happen.  I tend to get worked up if I don’t reach my goals or complete all the items on my list.  I don’t like to feel like I failed by not completing tasks.  Jason and my sister would be perfectly content with having items not checked off their lists.  They would simply get to those tasks another day, and if not, then oh well.  Last year my sister and I started a goal to read books.  She had a goal of reading one book a month, and I decided to read 100 books in a year.  First thing I did?  Created a list of books I wanted to read.  Then as I completed books, I created a list of books completed.  Then a list of books I wanted to read.  The lists kept growing, and they continue to grow.  My sister joked and said I was taking the fun out of reading by having my lists.  I liked the challenge of having the lists and crossing things off my list.  Then as the year 2016 was ending, it was an amazing feeling knowing I could cross off my 100th book and even exceed my goal by reaching 106 books in one year.

During this adoption journey, you can bet your bottom dollar that I have lists.  I have lists of items that need to be taken care of for the fundraiser event we are planning.  I have lists of vendors we have.  List of people and organizations that have donated items.  Lists of items that need to be gathered for our application and home study process.  Lists of things I still want done around the house.  Lists, lists, and more lists.

As I’m sure you can imagine, I like my life organized and planned out.  I like to be in control of things.  So you can even further imagine what it was like when my life wasn’t going according to plan.  I created lists of things I wanted accomplished before we started a family.  I checked items off one by one.  When the time came where we were “ready” to start a family, it was very frustrating that nature wasn’t letting things happen.  Now I can sit back and laugh (a little).  While I was creating these lists and planning my life, God was probably laughing away.  God has our life planned out for us.  No matter how hard we try, we can’t change what his plans are for us.  We just have to trust and have faith.

I have always wanted a big family, and have actually thought about the idea of adopting many times, well before I even met Jason. After Jason and I met, I told him many times that I want a house full of kids.  I tell this story all the time, but I will share it again in case you never heard it before.  We went through our marriage counseling, and the Pastor asked us how many kids we both wanted.  Right away my response was “At least six!”  Jason quietly replied, “I don’t know.  Maybe two.”  I countered his response with, “The lowest I can go with is four”. This story cracks me up.  No matter how hard I try to plan things out, things just didn’t work the way I wanted.  But, this does not mean the doors have been shut for us.  We can hopefully still have the family we wanted.  Whether it’s one child, two children or the full six that I always wanted.  I’m so excited to meet our future children and bond with them in a way I can’t even imagine.  Yes, I have a list of personality traits or hobbies that I do look for when reading all the children’s profiles, but it does not mean I would say no to a child that doesn’t “match” with my list.  I am beyond curious to see what child(ren) God places in our lives.

So, are you more like Jason and my sister, or more like me?  Anyone else obsessed with lists?

We Finally Have Our Kitchen Back

From:  Monday, March 27, 2017

What a busy weekend!  As you may remember from a previous post, our kitchen became a huge mess and basically not usable due to all the donations we have been receiving.  We finally finished taking everything into the basement, just in time to receive even more donations. We decided to do a deep clean of the main floor of our home and it looks awesome. I sat up a play room for our cats (more so for our kitten), and had Jason spend time in there entertaining the cats so they wouldn’t be in the way while I was cleaning.  Cleaning with cats (especially the kitten) can get frustrating.  I’m sure it can be compared to trying to clean with children around.  I clean up all the cat toys/items, the kitten comes and spreads everything out again.  I try to sweep the floors, the kitten decides to lay in my dirt pile. I try to clean the bathroom, the kitten walks around on my freshly cleaned surfaces. There’s a lot of, “no don’t touch that, no don’t eat that, go play with your toys, you’re driving me crazy, etc.” In the end the house did get clean, so that’s a plus.  Maybe it’s just me, but having a clean and organized home is very refreshing.  I like knowing where everything is and having empty surfaces throughout our home.  I absolutely hate clutter, and yes, I know I have to get over this especially when we have children in our home.  Something for me to work on, I guess.  As it turns out, we did not get to finish going through our items to sell and we did not begin pricing any of the donated items yet.

Besides cleaning most of the weekend, we had our friends and their two children come over for dinner and hangout for a little while.  It was entertaining to see how much energy the children have and watching how our friends parent their children.   We have a challenging road ahead of us as far as parenting goes, but I’m honestly very excited for this challenge.

Sunday morning we had a great church service.  We enjoy listening to our pastor preach.  He’s really good at using the Bible and showing how the Bible relates to us in today’s world.  Yesterdays sermon was about “Doubting Thomas”, and about learning to trust in God and stop doubting and fearing things.  We could definitely relate to the fearing things.  Adopting is a huge step for us and we are scared of what lies ahead for us on this journey.  Will we be able to raise enough funds to adopt? Will we be good parents? Is this truly God’s plan for us? Will having children ruin our relationship/friendship with each other? Will we be able to give our children a good life? The list goes on and on.  After church we met with our pastor to kind of talk things over about the rummage/fundraiser and about our fears.  Talking and praying helped ease our minds a little bit and we know we need to focus on praying more about this new adventure.

This week we will continue with sorting/gathering items for the rummage.  This coming weekend we get to have a little get away for Jason’s last dartball tournament for the season.  It should be a fun time hanging out with the rest of the team and also just having some fun time away from home for a couple days.

God’s blessings to you all. Have a great week!